Whether this is to be your first gay dating experience ever, or just the first
with a new man, it’s always best to be safe. You should be able to enjoy
yourself with your date but taking precautions to ensure your safety is advised.
When you meet a guy over phone chat all you have to go by is what he has told
you and the impression you’ve gleaned from him yourself.
Here’s a safe guide to gay dating for everyone from total novices to skilled,
Check him out by phone first
Speak a few times on the phone before agreeing to a date. Obviously if the two of
you have gotten to the point where you are arranging a date it’s clear that you
already like each other. There’s no rush to meet up with someone the first time
you’ve spoken to them. Take your time, get to know each other a little, and
arrange to talk through phone chat a few times.
Date in public places
Arrange to meet in a public place. To most people this is common sense but a
surprising number of gay daters are willing to meet at someone’s house, in a
hotel, or late at night. Also try to meet somewhere that is neutral territory
and that you both know well. You should be able to get home without getting lost
if you need to leave in a hurry.
Don’t get a lift
Sort out your own transportation. Don’t agree for your date to pick you up from
your home the first time you go out and don’t share a cab home, even if you’re
both going in the same direction. If it makes you feel safer, take down a few
numbers for local taxi firms and save them in your phone.
Don’t get drunk
Take it easy on the booze. Being really drunk puts everyone in a more vulnerable
position. If you’re going to be drinking more than usual on your date make sure
to eat some good solid food beforehand. If you feel like you’re getting very
drunk very quickly change to soft drinks.
Trust your instincts. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, pushes you to
share information with them that you would rather not, or tries to take you
somewhere you’re not familiar with your within your rights to leave.
The vast majority of men you’ll chat to on gay chat lines are
decent, friendly, genuine men who are looking for love, friendship, and fun.
Don’t let the few bad apples out you off finding the man of your dreams and
embarking on a fairytale gay romance.